What to Expect When You Go to Your First AA Meeting
Alcoholics Anonymous is a community of people who have one thing in common: they’ve all had a drinking problem. In recovery from alcohol addiction, each person goes to an AA meeting for different reasons.
Some people go because it’s what they know and trust. Others go because it gives them a safe space to process their feelings. Some go because they need the fellowship of others who understand what they’re going through. However you choose to attend your first AA meeting, it’s important that you keep an open mind free of judgment. Here is a brief overview of what you can expect when you first enter your local AA meeting:
Don’t Feel Pressured to Talk if You Don’t Feel Comfortable Yet
Attending a meeting where others seem comfortable sharing openly about their experiences with alcohol or drug use can feel intimidating. If you feel more like an observer, it’s completely okay to attend without speaking. During your first few meetings, you may still be processing the information and emotions that come up while listening to others. Remember, you are not required to talk, especially if you don’t feel ready or don’t know what to share. Be patient with yourself and allow time to adjust. As you continue attending, you’ll naturally become more familiar with the format and more comfortable with the people in the room. Once you’ve attended a few meetings and found a sponsor, this Step 4 worksheet helps structure your first moral inventory. Step 4 moral inventory worksheet (free PDF).
Everyone Will Probably Stand When the Meeting Starts
This is just an old AA tradition that goes back to the early days of the fellowship. In fact, a lot of people who come to AA are not religious at all—they just want to stop drinking and are looking for a solution. When the meeting starts, people will often say a short prayer or affirmation. This is typically followed by a moment of silence during which people may be thinking about their intention for the meeting or reflecting on their gratitude for the fellowship of AA. After that, you’ll see people sit down, and the meeting will start. You may want to sit down, too, but don’t feel obligated to do so. You can stand or sit as feels most comfortable to you.
People Might Share Intimate Details on How They Ended Up at AA
When people share at an AA meeting, they will typically talk about their struggle with alcohol or drugs, their reasons for ending up at AA, and the tools they use to stay sober . People will often end their stories with something like, “and that’s what brought me here today.” Most people who speak at AA meetings will say, “Hi, I’m _______, and I’m an alcoholic.” This is the standard way for people to introduce themselves in AA.
Because AA is such a safe place to talk about your problems, people will often share things about their stories that they may not have shared with their friends and family members. If you’re a newcomer to AA, you will probably learn a lot from listening to other people’s stories. Some people may share things that resonate with you, and others may share things that are very different from your situation. No matter who shares, you’ll almost certainly walk away from the meeting with insights that will help you on your journey to recovery.
You May Be Asked to Join in a Simple Prayer or Affirmation Before the Meeting Ends
Some AA meetings will end with a prayer or affirmation, and others won’t. This is just something that happens at certain meetings, and it’s not intended to offend anyone. If you’re at a meeting that ends with a prayer or affirmation, don’t feel obligated to participate if you don’t want to. You can just sit and listen, or you can leave the room if you feel like you’d feel too uncomfortable staying. There may also be some variation on the “silent prayer” in which people close their eyes, bow their heads, and silently pray to themselves. You can be as involved or uninvolved as you want to be. If the meeting closes with a prayer, here’s how to use the 11th Step prayer at home to build consistency.
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